DEMONS HAVE POWER, BUT THEY ARE NO MATCH COMPARED TO GOD’S POWER (ACTS 19:11-12)
BTW, this article is written by a man.
Portions of that article:
Masturbation is sexual immorality. Jesus said that sexual immorality will take you to Hell.
How do we stop, repent and turn from it?
God has delivered me from pot, cocaine, crystal, acid, speed and alcohol. With each of these came a battle. Of all of these and some of these drugs I did for decades. The sin of masturbation was the biggest battle. But if you say that God can’t deliver you for any reason, it’s too strong or that’s the way I’m made, if you give any reason stating that God can’t deliver you of this sin you have:
1: – Just called Almighty God a liar.
2: – Just proved you don’t want to be delivered.
1st Corinthians chapter ten verse thirteen:
“For no temptation (no trail regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold of you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trail has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be temped and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of
resistance and power to endure, but with temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently.”
Jesus took all our sin indeed the sin of the whole world upon the cross. He came to set us free that we might live a holy and pleasing life toward God. Those who are set free by the Son of God are free indeed. God is faithful and He can be trusted, He will let no temptation come to you that is beyond your ability to resist and endure.
1st Thessalonians chapter four verses three and four:
“FOR THIS IS THE WILL OF GOD, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from ALL sexual vice, that each one of you should know how to possess (control, manage) his own body in consecration (purity, separated from things profane) and honor.”
It is God’s will that you live a life free from sexual sin. A life of pureness and holiness in thought and deed. He would not require this of you if He knew you could not do it. He does not call you to build a house without giving you the tools, skill and materials to do it.
You still have to do the labor and it can be hard work. The question is, are you willing to do what it takes?
You first have to come to realize how deadly serious this sin is. It was easy for me to say I know I was a drunk and a drug addict. God said no drunkards shall inherit the Kingdom of God. When something has that much control over you, you know it.
I first had to realize it was a sin not a disease. That would mean that I was in danger of going to hell because I was sick. I did not catch drunkenness like I would catch the flu.
It was because of my actions and lack of actions, choices I made that led me to depend on alcohol and drugs to deal with my life and myself.
It is the same with masturbation. Yes God gave you a sex drive. Yes God made women attractive. Yes God gave most men a desire to have that one companion to be intimate with in all areas of life and not just sexually. That is why God gave us marriage.
Paul wrote that he wished that all men were like he himself (single/ unmarried). But this was a gift from God for him to fulfill his calling
that the Lord had placed upon is life. 1st Corinthians 7: 7-9. Most men and I believe most women do not have that gift. At the same time God clearly states that we are not to walk in any sexual sin. Sex is a gift that is not to be opened until you are married, sex is a gift that He gave to bless a husband and wife not us singles. Yes, God gave me a sex drive and I thank God He did, but it is not my master, Jesus is.
Here is part of the key, is Jesus your Lord? Are you subject to His will and not to your own?
When I went to God seeking deliverance from drinking it never happened. I could not understand why. I begged God but alcohol was my master. I sought Christ to get a problem out of my life. I did not give up my life to get Christ’s life. It was I that lived not Christ Jesus that lived in me.
When I finally realized that masturbating was every bit as damming as being a drug addict, and had just as much control of me, and was just as destructive to me and those around me, just as grievous to my Lord and Savior who died for me that I could be free, it was then that I saw what I had to do. I had to go; I had to die, so Jesus could have that area of my life and live through that area of my life.
When I started to seek God just to know Him more, just to draw closer to Him, and know and love the One who made me, He began to show me why I drank and took drugs. God is a loving Father and He wants to remove anything that separates Him from His children. He started to show me the roots of the problem were as I had always focused on the fruit of the tree. He then helped me pull up the roots and the tree died.
It is the same with masturbation don’t go seeking God just to get rid of the problem. Don’t seek God just to get something from Him, seek Him to get to know Him. He knows it is a serious problem and He wants you free of it more than you do. If you are truly born again from above, you are a part of His body. He wants to impart His life in you. He may show you a lot of roots you will have to pull. There may be some things you may have to repent of that you never tied into the question of ‘why does this urge to sin win in
There is a major difference between the sin of being a drunk or a drug addict and the sin of masturbation. I did not have a God given desire to get drunk and puke all over. I learned that all on my own. I do have a God given desire to find the woman God has for me and get married. Masturbation is the abuse of that gift. I’m already cheating on my wife and I’m not even married yet. If like Paul I had the gift to be single I would not have that desire at all. Many people say they have that ‘gift’ but are trying to stamp out the desire when God wanted them to have a wife and they live a lonely miserable life or they secretly sin.
Yes it is a God given desire but His will was never for it to be your master. Here is what I did. First I made a decision to give God all of my life. I thought I had but I had just given Him bits and pieces before I realized what I was doing and grew tired of the ‘piece game’. And here is what you must do, you must totally surrender, give it up, and abandon yourself to God. Jesus said, “If a man puts his hand to the plow and looks back he is no longer fit to be my disciple.” The more I really got to know Jesus and His character, the more I became determined to let nothing come between us. God and His will became the primary focus of my life. And now it is the only focus of my life.
If I am to marry, that will be great, if I am to remain single, then that will be great too. I asked God to take the desire away. He didn’t but I would have been perfectly content if He did.
Let me just put in here that I learned not to care what people think about me. The whisperers, why does he not get married and do this or that? I am not going to stand and give an account to those people I will to Jesus Christ.
I also realized that this sin would take me to Hell. When you deliberately sin you deliberately reject Christ. We do not know the day or the hour or the second of the rapture. Ask yourself what you want to be doing when Jesus returns for His bride without spot or wrinkle. Laying there masturbating was not on my list.
I determined to fight it. It is an abuse of a God given gift. It is abnormal sex. Not only is it grievous to God but you are also teaching
yourself abnormal sexual behavior.
It will be a battle, you have trained yourself to get your quick fix every bit as much as drug addict needs a shot or a snort or a hit of his drug. Your flesh will want it. Remember, Gods Word says to walk after the Spirit not the flesh. When the thought or desire first enters your mind the battle is on. If you had an enemy that was trying to kill you and you hear the sound of a bullet entering the chamber of his gun you don’t stand in an open field and decide what to do, YOU MOVE, you react, you get to some cover and you get ready to fire back. Someone once said “you can’t keep a bird from flying over your head, but you can stop it from making a nest in your hair.” You can’t stop the thought from entering your mind but you don’t have to dwell on it, MOVE. Take every thought captive to Christ get you mind on God and what He’s called you to do. Get under the cover of the Almighty. The flesh may say to you ‘I want it, I want it’, again and again. And it can be strong, it may the first time you really ever battled your flesh before, if it is consider it a revelation, now you understand a little better all those scriptures about fighting the flesh, so fight it.
As I said, especially at first, it can be a real battle but it is a real man, a grown up man, a man of God who is in control of his flesh, one who does not let his flesh control and dictate to him. A real man fights, it is trying to kill you, and sin does not show mercy. You are commanded by God to treat it the same way. I don’t care if it attacks you so powerfully that at three in the morning you get up and wax your car to get your mind off it, if that still doesn’t work buy a bigger car, buy a fleet if you have to but you can not give in.
Your mind is a container; God gives you the power to renew it. If you keep putting trash in it, it is a trash container and all you are doing is giving your enemy more bullets to fire at you. Put Godly things in and it will become a Godly container. Get back to basics. Read Gods Word and fellowship with those that are serious about serving the Lord and not hiding their own sin, confess your sins one to another, bring it to the light, it’s the devil who works in the dark. Pray and ask for God to reveal His will for your life and I mean every part of it. Then do it. Jesus said, “Where I am my servant shall be.” Not the other way around. Gods has a plan for you He thought up before you were born, get to it. If you want God to reveal more of His will to you, you first have to do what He has already revealed. Why would He show you more of His plan when you have not obeyed what you already know?
Remember its Heaven and Hell serious. Staying in and repeating a known sin is your choice and you are choosing it over God. God will give you the victory but you have to fight the battle.
As you do these things and anything else the Lord may show you the attacks become less fierce and farther apart. But always be prepared. You have to as Paul said “die daily” and Romans chapter six verse eleven and twelve. “Even so consider yourselves also dead to sin and your relation to it broken, but alive to God [living in unbroken fellowship with Him] in Christ Jesus. Let no sin therefore rule as king in your mortal (short-lived, perishable) bodies, to make you yield to its cravings and be subject to its lusts and evil passions.”
I have also been asked to write an article on dating and courtship because the next question I usually get from single men is how do I find a wife? If they have read the Word they usually quote 1st Corinthians 7:27 emphasizing the “seek not a wife” part with a pained look on their face.
Dating and courtship is a whole different study and I will write more on this later. But in brief I will share this since masturbating is sin and it’s good to know what is not. The gift of sex is for married couples, that they may express in the physical the love God gave them, for each other to be shared between them alone.
First if anyone can find anywhere in the Word of God that dating as we understand it today is scriptural I would like to see it. It is not. That does not mean you can’t meet and get to know members of the opposite sex. But the Word is clear that you treat them as sisters.
“Treat older women like mothers and younger women like sisters, in all purity.” 1st Timothy 5:2.
Read the in all purity part again. You don’t decide you like her and drive off to Lookout point even if she wants to. Trust me you don’t want the girl that is willing to break her vow before God and you are doing the same. In fact if you really love and respect her you would never put her in a place where there could be even a hint of sexual immorality. The devil is a liar and the accuser of the Saints he does not care that nothing has happened between you and her. He will slander her and you if you give him the chance. A Godly husband protects his wife; a Godly man protects his sister. He does not take his sister out and then make out with her.
Meeting the lady and getting married is a gift from God every bit as being single such as Paul’s gift. When it is time to receive that gift (and God knows when it is time) let Him bring the lady across your path that He has for you. You trust Almighty God with your eternal salvation but you can’t trust Him to bring you a mate? God says He will give you the desire of your heart. He can say that because He is the one who gave you the desire in the first place. When it is time, and fortunately for you and her that will be when you are mature enough to take headship for one of His daughters and when it is His will, for God wants godly families, you can pray and He will answer.
But first I would pray that the Lord would reveal to you what it is to be a godly husband and to put you through the refining fire so that you are ready to take that position. The Word states that when you get married you “shall have trouble in the flesh”. It is wise and I state this again IT IS WISE to take care of as much of these trouble as you can before you are married. Then I would pray that the Lord would bring her to you. Don’t go seeking, looking to see if this or that girl has enough check marks on your perfect wife list. Pray and trust, let God answer your prayer. All good gifts come from above and God loves you and her. Let Him bring you that gift and her let him bring you. The fruit of meeting her should increase your service for God not distract you from it for two are better than one when it is God’s will. When you two meet trust God to let you both know it, and you can pray singly and together as to whether you are meant to be more than just brother and sister. Remember God is Love. Don’t try to manufacture it on your own. That is counterfeit, emotional, conditional love and that is why most, over 50% of Christian marriages end in divorce within 5 years. Take the time to let God fill you with His love for her and fill her with His love for you. If she is the one, God will do this whether you are together or apart. When you come to the point where you know it is God’s will to marry her and she hears the same from the Lord, then you are ready to make that commitment, that life long covenant together.
A lot of people will say “that is crazy’ and that ‘our society does not work this way’. ‘You are saying God is a matchmaker’. To that I say yea and amen. Societies change but the Lord thy God does not. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. He made the first match and marriage in the beginning and He still does for those who know Him and seek His will.
“And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to and hears us. And if (since) we [positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him.” 1st John 5:14-15.
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